As always: Trigger Warning enabled. I read too much and know too many things. Keep it clean. Let's have a good fight. Wait...no...what?
Right to it. If you haven't read the rest please go HERE to get caught up!
Christian offers no aftercare.
Aftercare is something that happens after a scene. Each submissive's need for aftercare is different. Some need to be cuddled. Some need blankets/chocolate/water (everyone should have water in my opinion). Some just need to be left alone.
Aftercare is necessary because a scene can involve a serious release of endorphins. You know how after sex a lot of women want to cuddle? It's that, but on crack.
After their first more intense scene (spanking involved), Christian offers zero aftercare. He doesn't even find out what kind of aftercare she needs. She later has a huge sobbing breakdown THAT HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN THERE TO HELP WITH ORIGINALLY.
A sub's mental/emotional/physical health following any encounter is the responsibility of the Dominant. Christian falls away from this many times.
He punishes her improperly.
He warned her that if she rolled her eyes she would receive a spanking. Fine. That's their dynamic and their rules.
However, he does it wrong (in my opinion).
Disciplining an adult is the same as a child. Any parent knows you discuss what went wrong before AND after the punishment. The same applies to adults.
Christian, however, doesn't go into it. A proper way of dealing out a punishment would have been to remind her "I told you that rolling your eyes offends me and what the punishment would be. Do you understand?" Apply punishment. And then go over it with her after.
It seemed more out of frustration or anger to me.
There is a lack of trust between them.
She doesn't trust him to control himself. He doesn't trust her to safe word.
They shouldn't "play" together until trust is established. Period. Let me caps that. YOU SHOULDN'T PLAY WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T TRUST 100%. Do not pass go, do not collect $200.
He tracks her down in another state when she needs time to think.
This was just creepy to me. He figures out her schedule and whatnot. It doesn't speak of trust to me.
I had an ex that did that kind of thing. There's a reason he's my ex.
He uses sex to shut her up.
This goes back to using sex as a weapon. (I believe that was in part 1)
She doesn't enjoy pain, but he continues.
I ended my last post discussing this. Christian Grey is a sexual sadist. He gets pleasure by inflicting pain. However, that is usually paired with sexual masochism....people that find pleasure in pain.
They are mismatched. Ana may learn to enjoy the submission part, but she doesn't like pain and that isn't necessarily something you can TEACH someone. He, being the experienced one, should see this and end the relationship. Since he can only enjoy sex THIS WAY, he shouldn't be with someone that can't.
I don't know when the next series on this will come out...because I have to read the next book for it to happen.