I find that really misleading. I used to think people were saying, with time, it would stop hurting.
Grief doesn't necessarily change and get easier. YOU change and get stronger. Look at it like exercising. You can do a dozen pushups every day. After a period of time, it'll get easier to accomplish. But that doesn't mean the exercise changed. Your muscles changed and got stronger.
May 7th will be 16 years to the day that I lost my step-brother. He was murdered. I was 13 and it was the first huge death I can remember dealing with...and it wrecked me.
May 20th also holds a significant loss of sorts that I'm, honestly, not ready to talk about yet.
As my life has changed, the way I feel the grief has changed. The last few years have been more difficult and I'm still working through that.
So, grief sucks. If you can give me an extra hug over the next few weeks I'd appreciate it.