Disclaimer: This blog is about the word "bitch" and how it impacts MY life. Therefore, it's going to litter this post.
I've never really minded the word "bitch."
Well, not when I was younger anyway.
See, my childhood and teen years fell in the 90's and early 2000's...when the Spice Girls were screaming about GIRL POWER and Meredith Brooks came out with this song:
Well, not when I was younger anyway.
See, my childhood and teen years fell in the 90's and early 2000's...when the Spice Girls were screaming about GIRL POWER and Meredith Brooks came out with this song:
It was a time when shopping at Spencer's and Hot Topic made you "edgy" and "cool" because you could buy bottle openers and giggle at the sex toys. I remember the bumper stickers reading: BITCH = Babe In Total Control of Herself.
So, for a long time it was just a word to me. I didn't grow up with a negative connotation around it. If it was hurled as an insult it was on the level as every other insult...nothing more.
Enter the abusive boyfriend.
So, for a long time it was just a word to me. I didn't grow up with a negative connotation around it. If it was hurled as an insult it was on the level as every other insult...nothing more.
Enter the abusive boyfriend.
I actually cared what he thought of me so when HE called me a bitch? End. Of. The. World.
It wasn't until after we broke up I took a long look at what triggered his use of that word.
Things like having a differing opinion, sticking to my guns on something, refusing to back down in an argument...
Being strong.
It was that moment I realized if being a bitch meant holding my own and having inner strength...damn right I'm a bitch.
I've been told (mostly on the internet) that NO ONE should EVER use that word. It's a horrible word that does nothing but bring women down.
If you believe that, I respect you and won't use it when referring to you and will TRY to cull usage in your presence.
But for me?
Use it. I'm not offended. I refuse to be offended. It doesn't matter the tone or context. I'm proud to be a Babe In Total Control of Herself.
It wasn't until after we broke up I took a long look at what triggered his use of that word.
Things like having a differing opinion, sticking to my guns on something, refusing to back down in an argument...
Being strong.
It was that moment I realized if being a bitch meant holding my own and having inner strength...damn right I'm a bitch.
I've been told (mostly on the internet) that NO ONE should EVER use that word. It's a horrible word that does nothing but bring women down.
If you believe that, I respect you and won't use it when referring to you and will TRY to cull usage in your presence.
But for me?
Use it. I'm not offended. I refuse to be offended. It doesn't matter the tone or context. I'm proud to be a Babe In Total Control of Herself.
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