That time my husband left and I didn't say anything

1/18/2014

My husband was on a Temporary Duty Assignment for the last couple of weeks.

Surprise!

That's the drawback to having a blog and my Facebook set on "public." I didn't feel comfortable telling THE WORLD my husband was gone.

Woman basically alone in the house for 2 weeks! Come on over!

Yeah.....no.

Major freaking KUDOS to all of the single moms out there. I did it for 12 days and I NEVER WANT TO DO IT AGAIN.

I cried a lot...out of stress. Yeah, I missed my husband but I knew he wasn't in immediate danger and we talked daily. It was mostly this overwhelming sense of "I can't do this" that got me.

I learned a lot about myself too. So it wasn't all stress and crazy.

That's a lie.

It was all stress and crazy with some self reflection forced upon me from my brain.

First of all, I need to figure out how to prepare my kids better next time. They sort of freaked out after a few days and I swear they were thinking...

I also realized a lot about my business and where that's going. There's a video PROMISED to explain all of that so stay tuned.

I realized my diet sucks if I have no accountability. I swung back and forth between "EAT ALL THE JUNK" and "If I have to look at food I'll gag." I'm pretty sure I gained weight while he was gone. 12 days and I put on weight. Ugh.

So now, he's home and I'm recuperating. The kids are unharmed and the house is standing. (Wrecked...but standing) I'm not curled up in the corner.

However, if you need me I'll probably be lost in a book somewhere.

Edit: Due to people having too much time on their hands (and zero tact) the comments are now filtered and set at "approve" only.

Grow up.

5 Comments

Rachel

1/18/2014 07:57:55 am

I don't think it matters why her husband was gone ( military or not), the point was/is this was her first time. Firsts for anyone are hard. Had this been a first time dad writing about how hard it is you'd all be like "oh poor you. You probably did just fine. It'll get easier." Where the hell.....

Yay! You survived! The kids survived! I wouldn't have done any better. Actually I probably would've been crying all over social media. And would've needed to attend an AA meeting after he got home. :D

Wife&Mother

1/18/2014 08:22:03 am

Let me preface this by saying I am very familiar with the military life. (Been a part of my life 10 plus years)

What is so wrong with self expression? She is merely being honest, probably to a fault. I've known many military wives who prided themselves on "keeping it together" for the public, but that was their choice. Who are we to judge her for feeling a certain way?

I get that some wives would love for their husbands to be gone 12 days instead of 120 days. When did it become a competition to see who has it harder? She is entitled to her feelings however "trivial" they may seem to other readers.

Kasondra- don't let a judgmental few keep you from discussing and processing your feelings. You shouldn't feel guilty for missing your husband or admitting that you aren't supermom.

1/18/2014 11:49:22 am

Sooo... because you all are perfect parents who can do everything all alone that somehow makes it ok for you to come bash someone's feelings?

all of you who magically think that you are doing just fine all on your own are wrong because somewhere along the way, you have decided that it's okay for you to be a mega bitch to another mom for no damn reason and it benefits exactly nobody.

Next time you want to pat yourself on the back, go bake yourself some homemade cookies and eat them alone while you stfu.

1/18/2014 12:04:43 pm

I'm a military spouse, and it's pretty disgusting that instead of encouraging another mom, Y'all are trying to tear her down. What happened to supporting other women? Who made you the perfect mom/Wife/whatever? It's really not a competition . Some of you really need to get a grip and realize that it's time to grow up and stop putting other moms down.

Ilsa

1/19/2014 03:18:55 am

I totally know how you feel! Military life is hard :( You can do it, shutting people out makes it harder. If you have family around be sure to use them, let them take the kids for a couple of days next time just so you can relax. We're all on different journeys and we each have different trials to go though, and just because someone can handle something better then you can doesn't mean that they are better then you. Reading some of these comment's makes me really sad that there are women out there that feel like they have to attack a woman when she show's or admits to weakness it's a sign that they can't handle their own lives. But, hey! At least your being read? ;)

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